Talking to Kids about Sex

 

 

The JOY of Parenthood…. It comes with great conversations with your little ones. NOT….. but if someone has to do it I’d rather it be me. My 7 and 9-year-old brought up the word SEX the other day and I pretended like i didn’t hear them. Yea I’m that mom. What the heck… why are kids learning about this stuff so early? Kid come on now be a kid don’t grow up so fast.

 

I didn’t wanna have that talk when I was a pre-teen, I never asked about it. I do remember one of my father’s girlfriends having a talk with me while I sat on a bar stool in a bar in Southern Maryland about the Birds & the Bee’s I was about 12. It was uncomfortable, to say the least, I may have wondered about it I suppose but nowadays kids are starting out so early.

 

So the question is when is the right time to talk to your child about SEX?

 

When your child is ready.

 

Since my daughters have already asked about their private parts around age 4 I’ve opted to give them the correct name from the start instead of backtracking later. When my daughter came home from school and said her kitty-cat …………. It was time to teach her that its called a Vagina and boys have a Penis ( no daddy doesn’t pee out of his hand. )

 

My girls have asked me several times where babies come from? Do you get them from kissing because if you do I’m never kissing a boy. I explained to them that when you are married a mommy and a daddy create a baby together.The basic understanding of intercourse. You can say, “Nature [or God] created male and female bodies to fit together like puzzle pieces. When the penis and the vagina fit together, sperm, like tadpoles, swim through the penis and up to the egg.” Explain what you think about sex and relationships. For instance: “Sex is one of the ways people show love for each other.

 

Many moms believe their children are not ready or mature enough to know anything about Sex at all but I assure you, they are hearing about it at school. Wouldnt you rather they hear the facts from you than hear twisted info from someone else.

If you talk about it from an early age it won’t be taboo as they get older & hopefully, they’ll be more willing to talk to you when the time comes. I honestly didn’t think about talking about rape. I know it’s important to discuss, but it didn’t cross my mind.  There are some scary statistics out there. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18. If you use the proper terms and teach them what to expect and to say no, then hopefully their chances of being victims decreases or if they do (God forbid) become a victim, they will feel better coming to you. We will teach abstinence, but also talk about using protection and living with consequences of actions. I wish I could be naive when it comes to this, but I can’t. This isn’t the world we grew up in.

 

Storybooks can help get across the concept of sex to your child or further explain what you’ve already discussed. Check your local library, set aside time to sit and read together, then offer to answer any questions. Don’t just send your child off to read in a room by herself, though. Being involved from the get-go will show her that she can come to you when she has more complicated or sensitive questions as she gets older.

 

A few books I like that helped me thru the process are It’s Not the Stork and What’s the Big Secret

 

Do you have any tips on talking to your kids about sex? Let’s talk about it.

 

 

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25 DIY Kid Made Bird Feeders

 

Each spring, I look forward to making bird feeders with my kids. There are so many tutorials and creative ways to make them, and kids love watching birds visit their homemade feeders. Here are 25 awesome kid-made bird feeder ideas to make with your kids this year.

 

  1. Star Bird Feeders
  2. Pop Bottle Bird Feeders
  3. Popsicle Stick Bird Feeder
  4. Juice Carton Bird Feeder
  5. Pinecone Bird Feeder
  6. Orange Bird Feeder
  7. Recycled Bird Feeder
  8. Butterfly Bird Feeder
  9. Colorful Bird Feeder
  10. Natural Heart Bird Feeder
  11. Milk Jug Bird Feeder
  12. Frame Bird Feeder Craft
  13. Popsicle Bird Feeder Craft
  14. DIY Rocket Bird Feeder
  15. Wipe Container Bird Feeder
  16. Recycled Can Bird Feeder
  17. Orange Birdseed Ornaments
  18. Toilet Paper Bird Feeder
  19. Cookie Cutter Bird Feeder
  20. Cheerio Bird Feeder
  21. Tin Can Bird Feeder
  22. Tinker Bell Bird Feeder
  23. DIY Bird Feeder Buffet
  24. Peanut Butter Bird Feeder
  25. Homemade Donut Bird Feeder
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Five Ways to Show Your Kids You Love Them

You may take for granted that your kids know you love them, but, in many cases that may not be true. Kids need constant reassurance, especially from Mom and Dad. The world is hard and kids can face a lot of troubles and difficulties out in society. A strong foundation of love and security at home can go a long way in giving your child the strength to get through each day in a positive way. Try these ideas:

 

  • Small Gestures

 

Place sweet notes in lunches, tape them to their bedroom door, or write loving messages on their bathroom mirror. These are all ways to remind your kids that you love them and are thinking about them. Buy them a treat, or watch their favorite show with them. Little things like this go a long way.

 

  • Expect a Lot From Them

 

This may seem counterintuitive, but expecting a lot of our kids makes them know that we think very highly of them. Challenge them and expect them to help around the house. Teach them life skills that will set them up for success once their out on their own. Give them a purpose and make them feel like they have a mission in life. They may not see the value in this now, but when they’re older, they’ll thank you for expecting a lot of them and believing their capable of accomplishing a lot!

 

  • Care About Their Health

 

Don’t feed your kids junk and let them sit around all day. Nor should you let them stay up until all hours and then sleep until noon. Teach your children self-care and guide them about what kind of food they eat and how much sedentary time they engage in, especially staring at screens. Make them feel like you care about them – mind, body, and spirit.

 

  • Set Limits

 

Give your kids boundaries. Check their phone and social media accounts to make sure they’re on the up and up online. Don’t indulge their every wish and desire. Don’t allow them to be disrespectful to you or others. Again, they may see this as mean and oppressive now, but later in life they’ll look back and see how much you cared about their safety, character, and well-being.

 

  • Tell Them

 

Tell your kids that you love them when you wake them up each morning. Then again when you drop them off at school. And when you pick them up. Tell them when they walk into the room and again when they leave it. Email them and tell them that you love them. Post it on their Facebook page. Tell them multiple times at night before they go to sleep. Let it be the last thing they hear from you before they close their eyes at the end of each day. The point is, you can never ever tell them enough that you love them. Not only will they know for sure how you feel about them, but this practice will help them to become loving, caring people as well.

Everyone loves their kids, right? Hopefully. But not every parent shows their kids that they love them. Use these little tips to show your children in a big way just how much they mean to you!

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