Talking to Kids about Sex

 

 

The JOY of Parenthood…. It comes with great conversations with your little ones. NOT….. but if someone has to do it I’d rather it be me. My 7 and 9-year-old brought up the word SEX the other day and I pretended like i didn’t hear them. Yea I’m that mom. What the heck… why are kids learning about this stuff so early? Kid come on now be a kid don’t grow up so fast.

 

I didn’t wanna have that talk when I was a pre-teen, I never asked about it. I do remember one of my father’s girlfriends having a talk with me while I sat on a bar stool in a bar in Southern Maryland about the Birds & the Bee’s I was about 12. It was uncomfortable, to say the least, I may have wondered about it I suppose but nowadays kids are starting out so early.

 

So the question is when is the right time to talk to your child about SEX?

 

When your child is ready.

 

Since my daughters have already asked about their private parts around age 4 I’ve opted to give them the correct name from the start instead of backtracking later. When my daughter came home from school and said her kitty-cat …………. It was time to teach her that its called a Vagina and boys have a Penis ( no daddy doesn’t pee out of his hand. )

 

My girls have asked me several times where babies come from? Do you get them from kissing because if you do I’m never kissing a boy. I explained to them that when you are married a mommy and a daddy create a baby together.The basic understanding of intercourse. You can say, “Nature [or God] created male and female bodies to fit together like puzzle pieces. When the penis and the vagina fit together, sperm, like tadpoles, swim through the penis and up to the egg.” Explain what you think about sex and relationships. For instance: “Sex is one of the ways people show love for each other.

 

Many moms believe their children are not ready or mature enough to know anything about Sex at all but I assure you, they are hearing about it at school. Wouldnt you rather they hear the facts from you than hear twisted info from someone else.

If you talk about it from an early age it won’t be taboo as they get older & hopefully, they’ll be more willing to talk to you when the time comes. I honestly didn’t think about talking about rape. I know it’s important to discuss, but it didn’t cross my mind.  There are some scary statistics out there. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18. If you use the proper terms and teach them what to expect and to say no, then hopefully their chances of being victims decreases or if they do (God forbid) become a victim, they will feel better coming to you. We will teach abstinence, but also talk about using protection and living with consequences of actions. I wish I could be naive when it comes to this, but I can’t. This isn’t the world we grew up in.

 

Storybooks can help get across the concept of sex to your child or further explain what you’ve already discussed. Check your local library, set aside time to sit and read together, then offer to answer any questions. Don’t just send your child off to read in a room by herself, though. Being involved from the get-go will show her that she can come to you when she has more complicated or sensitive questions as she gets older.

 

A few books I like that helped me thru the process are It’s Not the Stork and What’s the Big Secret

 

Do you have any tips on talking to your kids about sex? Let’s talk about it.

 

 

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Most of you know I have 4 Crazy Girls but did you know it wasn’t easy for me to have those girls. I thought getting pregnant would be a breeze but I soon found out that wasn’t in the plans for me. It didn’t come easy and month after month the pregnancy test was negative. Eventually, I had to seek treatment and that was a long drawn out process, I eventually had my babies #triplets.

 Couples struggling with infertility often find themselves in a perpetual cycle of grief and loss. Every negative pregnancy test and monthly period is a reminder of the child they do not have and a dream that is going unfulfilled.

 

 

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Five Spring Cleaning Tips We All Forget

Spring cleaning is one of the smartest tasks you can undertake each year. In actuality, despite its name, “spring” cleaning should be done at the beginning of each season in order to deep clean your home and purge it of any unnecessary clutter. Here are five areas of our home that we often forget when spring cleaning:

 

  • Baseboards

 

Not many people notice their baseboards on a daily basis, but they can get mighty gross. Being adjacent to the floor, baseboards endure a lot of abuse and get covered in filth from feet, pets, and dust. Fill a bucket with warm sudsy water and grab an old toothbrush. Gently scrub each baseboard, wiping the dirty water up as you go along with a cloth so the floors don’t get wet and damaged. You may be surprised what a difference clean baseboards make in regard to the aesthetic beauty of your house!

 

  • Junk Drawers

 

Admit it. You have a junk drawer. Or two. Or ten. Or at least one in each bathroom and the kitchen. Junk drawers are actually wonderful places to keep objects that don’t have a “place” in your home. These catch-alls house all sorts of random things like paperclips, pens, coins, batteries, and coupons. But, keep adding “junk’ to these drawers, and you’ll need to start using an additional one at some point. To clean out a junk drawer, dump it out and only put useful things back in it. Throw away dried up pens, expired coupons, old mail, and other useless stuff. It’s okay to have a junk drawer as long as you keep it under control.

 

  • Clothes

 

What do clothes have to do with spring cleaning you may ask? Many people add and add to their closets without ever purging them. Next thing you know you have old concert t-shirts from the eighties crowding your space. Instead of picking things out of your closet to donate or throw away, take everything out and lay it on your bed. Only return what you love back to your closet. Make sure you do this to each of your kids’ closets as well. Kids grow and their clothes get rips and stains from every day wear and tear. Purging wardrobes is a great way to know what’s missing or what needs to be replaced.

 

  • Vents

 

It’s easy to forget about the vents in your house. Air vents get caked with dust, pet dander, and other allergens and those particles end up in the air we breathe. Replace these at the beginning of each season. And our dryer vent can become a fire hazard if it’s not cleaned regularly. It’s worth paying a professional to come do this properly for you.

 

  • Dust

 

This one may seem obvious when it comes to spring cleaning, but many dusty spots are neglected during a regular dusting routine. Check the top of your refrigerator, as well as your cabinets. Dusk your blinds and plantation shutters if you have them. And, underneath furniture and the tops of fan blades are other spots to clean. Removing all that dust will make the air in your house easier to breathe!

Spring cleaning can be cathartic and even fun! There’s no better feeling than having an immaculately clean and thoroughly purged home, even if it only stays that way for a short time!

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